Why You Don’t Feel Worthy of Your Desires

You are being pulled in 15 different directions, yet you never wonder why underneath all of the chaos you take on in your life that it never feels like enough. You never feel as if you are worthy enough to have things handed to you on a silver platter. You stay hurt until you finally let yourself receive that thing you have been wanting for so long, yet it has been right in front of you this entire time.

You wish you had seen it before, the signs that call you toward internal freedom and yet you see that deep inside of you that you perceive things to be hard to get in life. You may feel that you were never worthy of something in the first place unless you worked really hard to get it. Do you see it now? That you believe no matter what is on the outside of you, you will never feel good enough. Now don’t take this knowing for granted because the deeper you look, the deeper you will see. All the times you were stood up, phased out, let down, ashamed by others was just for them to show you that the worthiness comes from you, not the thing or them.

You may see that all along you conformed to the things that you thought would make you worthy, and yet when you achieve those things, you no longer find lasting happiness. Instead, you keep achieving. You keep reaching for something outside of you. You never allow yourself to fully receive something that you achieved in the first place, it was always onto the next thing. You were reaching for the next level of worth in your reality. And yet, it was always here, right within you.

• The Quiet Voice of Unworthiness

You see that within you has been screaming the voice of uncertainty. You never felt that it was the thing that you needed to see because you were the only one that could hear it. You were the only one that could feel it. Not only awaiting you to see it as it is, but you have already seen it and felt it before.  

You may think to yourself, “Who am I to have this? Who am I to receive this? Am I really worthy of gaining this thing or do I have to work harder in order to get it?”. See it as clear as day, because it is standing right in front of you. You were only seeing it now because you chose to look deeper at it. You think others may deserve it more than you because they worked harder than you. They allowed you to see yourself as beneath them, even though you were just as worthy.

You may think, “I don’t want to be disappointed. I don’t want to feel as if I am worthy of something and then end up never getting it”, only to believe that you cannot create the reality that you so desire for yourself and you are worthy of. Yet, it exists inside of you. This is why you see yourself as someone you are not, because that is your inherent worth speaking.

• Where This Pattern Begins

This pattern begins when you notice how others react you to when you expect what you want for yourself. It is in the quiet knowing that others are watching you, wondering when you are going to allow them to see themselves through you. When you stand out of their way, and focus on your own. When you see yourself as something you could be outside of what they expect you to be.

You get praise tied to your specific behaviors around how people think you should act. You think they should see you as you are and give you praise for being who you really want to be. Yet, there is praise missing when you finally step into your own. You finally hold your own weight without the desires of others.

You never needed to earn their approval because it was tied to your own inherent feeling of worthiness. The inner world will reflect outward, and if that world is showing what you believe to be true, then it will reflect on the outside of you. You may feel more valued for giving and not receiving because you will see that others can find you when they need you. Yet when you need them? They are nowhere to be seen.

You may find it safe to stay smaller than you believe you can be. You keep hiding beneath the façade, only to find that it keeps you farther away from your dreams that deep down you knew you could achieve. If only you could see your inherent worth, those dreams would be yours for the taking.

• Why Desire Feels Unsafe

What we deem is unsafe is only fake. It is only respected that we begin within to find out what is truly safe and to be feared. We fear ourselves, and nothing outside of us fails to show us what truly lies within. We are awaiting the pain to surface through other means, yet it shows its ugly face right in our environment and external circumstances. When we are not ready to see what is underneath is when the feeling rears its head at us, only to be seen clearly.

Desire is a force to be reckoned with yet it points out clearly to us that it is risky and not worth the fear we have to overcome to get there. We are so comfortable in our natural environment that we are too keen to step up to where we need to go for our evolution. Our evolution is what drives us forward, yet the fear of it is what holds us back from it.

We are then forced to go backward and tell ourselves “You don’t need it, it is not worth the risk or the pain”. We will only be disappointed, judged or put in an unsafe position where we find ourselves in between a rock and a hard place – what once was versus what is now achievable. We reject being rejected. It is the only thing maintaining our safety.  

• The Desire vs Worthiness Split

You want everything you desire, but somehow still feel unworthy of receiving it. You were never taught that it could be handed to you, so it feels so far away all of the time. You dream, but shrink. You see, but don’t achieve. You wait, but don’t act. It is all at one point in time which you realize the hidden truth underneath and decide to start acting in a way which aligns with that reality.

You can’t achieve freedom without choosing it. You have to choose to do the thing, believe in the thing and take actual steps toward the thing that you desire. In reality, it seems impossible. But inside, is where all of the magic is. Inside is where you find yourself in the unimaginable, the achievable state. It is from this state from which we can create the best version of ourselves.

• What Changes with Integration

So, I invite you now, to take a moment to think about what you truly desire. What is it that you truly want? Do you want to stay the same, or take a leap toward the unknown, toward the reality that you truly desire? Are you ready to step beyond your fears into a world of the unknown where possibility awaits you? When you’re ready, you can begin to take the gentle steps.  

I am here to witness your transformation and guide you toward it, moving through your fears. I am here to help you transform your fears into power. That is the hidden meaning behind them. You were never asking for too much, you were only taught to feel like you were. If you feel called for more, access my free workbook here:

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